MY KIND OF PETITION

Posted on January 1, 2013

While I write this in relation to, the story of a girl being gang raped in the capital city of India, it has already assumed the dimensions of a disgraceful burning issue and an indignant protest among masses in every corner of the country and I earnestly hope by the time this is published, the story meets a justified ending!

As a fact, on my first encounter with the matter, I so much felt like going out myself, by all means getting hold of the culprits and ripping flesh off their bones! But then I realized that this would end a criminal and to be true, we are in dire need of bringing an end to a crime. This led me to think two obvious things-A. Do not let a criminal be born and B. Keep system equipped enough to banish if in case one is born and expresses!

A. Do not let a criminal be born.

Although, a lot of social and psychological factors contribute in making a criminal, in my opinion each one of us keeps a negative side that has potential to turn in to an expression through actions/inactions that are unlawful(in its core). Of, course, set of morals, upbringing, personality type, education (formal and informal), social background and other such factors keep it all in check. But I (and not just a feminist spirit in me) somewhere feel we have gripped our society in the hands of certain taken-for-granted, seemingly unimportant but actually unhealthy day to day practices, which supports already existing and further breeds a generation of such negativity. An improvement over these little but crucial facets, may bring the change we want to see- safety and outward wellbeing of women in Indian society.

• Keep efforts to emancipate and encourage every possible female in every possible ways-yourself (if you’re a female reading this!), mother, sister, girlfriend, daughter, sister-in-law, a female friend, wife, daughter-in-law, niece, aunt. It is as simple as her being appreciated, given liberty of choices and expressions. Make her opinion and voice count in any family matter/discussions and let her wear what she likes, for a true home-maker/partner/member is marked by wisdom and adaptability, not by ability of blind follow!                                                                                                                                                                    

I know it can be struggle some to implement in a country where fidelity is one value loaded term, constantly employed to categorize only females, into goddess or whore, since times of epic!  But, a gender bias, it is and it was! Hasn’t time ripe to fight back from roots?

• Never run her down/tolerate running her down publicly or in front of young-ones (regardless of their gender), by a male member especially for chauvinistic reasons.(as in  father to mother, brother to his wife, uncle to aunt, one to other friend)
• Strictly affirm your “no-no” (and actions too, when/where required) about female foeticide, child marriages, domestic violence and dowry.(although there are laws but I am sure personally all of you know at least one family where they still practiced this non-sense, lets stop passing it on to next generation now!)
• Improve your/those who’re in your influence, taste for seeking “entertainment” and “food-for-thought”. I so wish focus shifts from ‘checking out “maal/item”s/munni’s/sheela’s/chameli’s and chammak challo’s’ to literature, quality music and creative/productive engagements. I sternly appeal the creators, audience and editing authorities to take responsibility, in this regard, as to what trends they’re allowing, encouraging and introspect about passively mocking female dignity. I truly feel sorry for generation of kids who innocently sing/dance jalebee bai’s/halkatt jawani’s/ganpat chal daroo la! Have we forgotten our duty to make them learn about Nirupama Rao, Indira Gandhi, Sudha Chandran, Barkha Dutt, Kalpana Chawla, characters like Anna Karenina or it is we ourselves keep no interest in doing so? 
• Learn to consider character, consistency, confidence, conviction and merits above gender/anything else. Be it salary, achieving promotions or holding posts and whether you’re on giver side or taker’s side, long term concrete development and growth should be only focus. Regardless of you’re a male or a female, refrain from short-cuts by taking advantage of biases in any terms. Remarkable achievements come only from hard-work and patience so dedicate towards deserving! This is one of the ways to chuck, assault or disparity in professional area.
• Most of you do not dare to act out of insecurity, peer-pressure or lack of empathy, but unite against/fight/discourage the doer, in response to any complaint about gender based harassment/assault/teasing from office colleague, some-one like servant or against an immature friend who finds it only some “light-fun”!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  

B. Keep system equipped enough to banish if in case one of a kind is born and expresses!

Say in this case the heinous act continued for 90 long minutes so, the wrongdoers ought to be faced with life-threatening situations that would evoke the physical and psychological responses approximating the ones experienced by the poor girl in real, for 90 long months. I am sure they would be biologically and mentally dead/nearly dead by then. I demand their living be made so pathetic by every means that all they can perceive peaceful should be death. I am in favor for making them chase and long badly for a breath of fresh air, a drop of  drinkable water, separate place to urinate and defecate, disease free body, a place of shelter and a piece of cloth to protect from chilly wind, somebody to rescue them from stones thrown to them everyday!

No, no, do not kill them, torture them to death. Make their bodies decay without food/water (or water from gutter and stinking stale food) and deadly infections. Make them suffer pains of fracture, burns and pulling away every hair and nail off their roots. We may also possibly request 6-10 gays to perform rape on each of them so that they know how it feels being made a part of an act against preference and later allow people to mock at this so that they know agony of helplessness when viewed as an object of cheap fun. This is how; traumatize their self-esteem before they die!

By making their life miserable to bear every possible fraction of time, we’d not only make them realize the value of  a life(one they own and ones they shattered) but also set an threatening example of  defying law, order and justice to goons, who would ever even in their dreams feel like committing similar act! 

Castration and bobitisation seem the means of justice to most, to me which is only half way. Why neglect the dreadful septicemia a young innocent suffered, various injuries on head and abdomen, every single bruise when she was beaten up, every unwanted physical contact she had to bear, a chilled Delhi winter night on road and an uncovered delicate ruined human female, each desperate attempt to gain oxygen on ventilator, pain of gaining consciousness and sensing a 7-12 or more poked artificial lines on the body to support survival in an ICU!

I so wish females who read this feels a need to empower (themselves and others around).Males who read this put in efforts to turn gentleman .And in all they, inspire a next lot to become so, respectively. This is for one simple reason that, displaying fury for one case, one day, one way, is nothing less than show-off, to me. If you so much live by sense of fairness and love for dignity let it be shown up in all possible ways, which could really make some difference. Now, you decide your standard and be bold enough to act it out in favor of your stand, “every time”!

One line Stupidity-1.Only a childish/boyish male spares no chance to prove his so called superiority; a real man would instead be polite and even-tempered always!

2. We are working out means to protect living of females in a world, they’re not presumably left safe even while inside a mother’s womb, before having assumed a life!